As a high powered women myself, working in the corporate world has its up and downs. For some of my clients, a huge commute into the city everyday brings its challenges not to mention once at the office, their high powered job of stress, deadlines and trying to keep on top of everything, does bring a sense of stress into their relationships. Not just with the ones they love, but with their bosses or their colleagues.
Relationships differ from your soul mate to your best friend. The way you feel right now in your own personal relationship may not be where you want to be. You may have trust issues because your partner before messed around with your head or cheated on you with your best friend. You can't fully commit to this new relationship because of the hurt that's been caused in your past.
For years I had a friend relationship (she was a colleague) We did everything together. Looking back at it now, it was a toxic relationship. I was young and naive then, I'd do anything she'd ask of me. But then one day, something snapped inside of me and I couldn't take anymore of being her little minion. For once, I was the one from the outside looking in. I wasn't going to have it anymore that she'd talk to me the way she did, or manipulate me the way she did. I finally stood up for myself. There was a huge argument, tears from both sides but do you know what, that was the game changer for me. I am strong and knew I didn't want to be mentally pushed around anymore. My parents have always said I have been very independent from an early age (I can even see it in my 3 year old daughter now) So why was I letting my friend and colleague mentally push me around. Do you know what, ever since that argument, I then became someone new. Someone stronger. There was a new opportunity within my job to become higher up on the ladder, it meant moving offices but thought yes I can do this. I'm a strong independent women, I need to get away from the toxic friend relationship, so I went for the job and was offered it. This was 8 years ago and was the best decision I ever made. Coming away from something which just didn't sit right with me. I was able to become my own person again and climber higher in my job.
Your have to know your worth within any relationship. If you are a career power driven women and you are struggling with your relationship, try to put what you want out of your relationship into your head. Look how hard you work every week. Is your relationship struggling because of this? Working at relationships is hard work. You both need to be coming from a place of calm. Have a look deep into your relationship and find out what is going wrong. For most of us its communication. Communication is key, no matter what. Say if you are not happy with what your boss has asked you to do. Would you be happy to turn around to him and say something? Look at your relationship, is your partner asking you to do something or be someone you are not? Would you say something then? Communicate. You will only end up procrastinating over it and making your life miserable.
Are you feeling that you need more of a work/life balance. That you need more time to spend on your relationship and have quality time together. Maybe have a date day once a week or even once a month. Meaning no devices, no distractions. Just the two of you, talking, communicating and just doing things which brought you together in the first place. Taking some time out to really appreciate what you have is special.
If you are a commuter, then sending the odd sexy texts to your partner while you are on the train. Tell them what you would like to do when you get home. This will help with the sexual chemistry and help to get things on a better track if you are feeling the tension.
You feel you are happy and in control in the boardroom at work but not happy with your relationship at home. Try to bring the boardroom feeling back home but the positiveness not the stress. You know your worth in the boardroom, you should know your worth in your relationship and where both of you stand. I often see the challenges women face in their careers and their relationships. They often feel they cant have both. But you totally can. Trust me.